My partner has started scrolling his phone during the exact moments I need him to listen, and I don't think he even notices he's doing it anymore.
Tried bringing it up last night when something actually mattered and watched his thumb keep moving the whole time I was talking. Said something about it. He put the phone down immediately and apologized and meant it, I could tell.
Ten minutes later it was back in his hand for something that definitely wasn't an emergency.
I don't think he's a bad partner. I just don't know how to ask for attention without turning it into a whole conversation about asking for attention.
Anonymous Panther,